People watching is one of my favourite pastimes. Guessing careers of commuters on the train, trying to work out relationships within groups of people, wondering why that guy would get such an awful tattoo, or why that couple aren’t talking to one another.
My mother is at least partly to blame for this. She’s a psychiatrist, with a bit of a tendency to overshare, so for me and my multiple siblings, if she thinks something is wrong, not talking about it isn’t an option, and analysing people, whether we know them or not, has become second nature.
Having recently turned 21, and being surrounded by my wonderful friends and family, I couldn’t help wondering what it is that makes us decide who we like and dislike, who we choose to spend time with. Consulting a psychology textbook – handy to have those lying around – told me that we’re supposed to like people who are similar to us. However, I’m not convinced that the old adage ‘opposites attract’ doesn’t have at least some truth. For me, something that makes people interesting is their differences.
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One reason I’m interested in this is because I have been told, on more than one occasion, that I have trust issues. I have to admit, this is probably true. It takes me quite a long time after I first meet someone before I open up to them, and there aren’t very many people I completely trust. However, once I’ve decided to trust someone, I literally don’t have a filter when I’m with them; no topic is off limits. If you’re one of the lucky few who’ve got to this point, congrats – you should feel special.
Connected to the trust issues, is the fact that I am a self-confessed commitment phobe. While I’d say I’m pretty good at choosing friends, and knowing which family members can be trusted, when it comes to romantic relationships, I’ve had some interesting experiences.
As the title suggests, this blog is going to be about my experiences of people watching. I’m taking the term loosely, so as well as people I have simply observed, I’ll also I’ll be writing about people I know. Some of them will be people I am very close to, and see all the time – my favourite people are likely to feature a lot. Others will be people I don’t see as much, perhaps deliberately, perhaps not. I will choose people who have taught me something, or made me think, or just that I have a story about. Reading it, you’ll find out a bit about me, people and things I find interesting, and, if your sense of humour is anything like mine, I hope you’ll find my observations and musings entertaining.